Hypnobirthing is all about the mind in relation to the body during childbirth. An anxious mind will create a tense body whereas a calm, focused mind will allow the body to function more efficiently.
Our thoughts are incredibly powerful in how they influence the way we feel both physically and emotionally. Sometimes we get into the habit of thinking in a negative way. It may be due to past experiences or current circumstances and it can be really damaging to our state of mind. This week I’m going to share 3 of my top tips for positive thinking.
This is a biggy and is a great way to think positively. Finding gratitude in everything in life helps to change your thought patterns. It takes some practice but the more you do it the easier it becomes. Try writing them down too. The act of writing help us to focus on the things we’re grateful for and this can be particularly useful when you’ve had a bad day or are going through a difficult experience. Each morning take 5-10 minutes before you start your day and write down 10 things you are grateful for today. Feeling grateful sends out positive vibes and the more you do it, the more you see things to feel grateful for.
If you’re struggling for things to feel grateful for, simply feeling grateful for being alive is a great place to start. Some examples could be:
I’m grateful for having teeth to eat food which nourishes my body and my brain.
I’m grateful for having a body which functions well so that I stay healthy and can enjoy doing activities such as walking the dog, playing with my kids, doing exercise.
I’m grateful for being able to hold my baby tonight when he woke up, even although I felt incredibly tired and enjoy the pure love and bond between us.
I’m grateful that I was able to look out into the night sky when the baby woke up as I could see the beautiful moon and stars.
I’m grateful for living in a warm home and being able to cloth my family.
I’m grateful for taking that walk and seeing the trees and that stream and breathing in the fresh air.
The list is endless! Gratitude is amazing. once you start seeing it all around you, you recognise it more and find it in places you didn’t notice or were consciously aware of before.
#2 Listen to music
Music is massively powerful. Our subconscious mind stores everything we experience in our lives. We can’t recall everything but we can trigger positive emotions depending on what we expose ourselves to. We all have our favourite music that we listen to. It makes us smile, sing, dance, laugh. It fills us with joy. It triggers happy memories. Music is all around us. Relaxation music is great and this will help you feel good but any music at all that makes you feel happy and triggers those happy thoughts will really brighten even a dark day. You can also hear it in nature. Birds, animals, the trees, the wind. When you open you ears and allow yourself to really listen, you can hear it.
When I was in labour with Louis we found a 90’s radio station to listen to. I LOVED it! I had so many happy memories of being younger and I felt so relaxed when I listened to it. I loved a lot of indie music, I loved going to gigs, singing, dancing so when these great tunes came on they reminded me of good times from the past. We laughed about my love of Oasis and PJ and Duncan and remembering seeing them both! Though unfortunately not at get same time! We laughed when Radiohead’s “Creep” came on, it seemed so daft to be in the background while I was having a surge! When we listened to the same station a few months ago, I felt great again as I remembered the birth experience. It’s powerful stuff!
#3 Do something positive for yourself each day
It’s easy to get caught up in the busy routine of life. Whether it’s working, looking after family or experiencing a difficult period in your life, it can be hard to take time to look after yourself. We can be hard on ourselves as we try to serve everyone else or focus on those around us before thinking of ourselves. It’s vital that we look after ourselves. You matter, you’re absolutely worth it. You’ll also struggle to look after/support/care for those around you if you don’t look after yourself.
This one is really easy to implement as there’s an abundance of wee treats you can do for yourself. Join a class or group of something which interests you. Read a funny, touching or hopeful story. Watch a comedy. Enjoy a bath with your favourite scent. Make a hot drink and spent 15 minutes enjoying it mindfully. Go for a walk. Chat to a friend. Enjoy a meal with your loved ones. Be conscious about ensuring you do at least one positive thing every day. You deserve it.
Try implementing these 3 tips into your daily routine and see if you start to notice a difference. Positive thinking really is addictive!
Do you have any tips you would like to share? Post them in the comments below.