The fear of the unknown… How many times in your life have you wanted to do something but have held back? Maybe it wasn’t such a bad idea to hold back from that crazy death-defying stuntman ambition but what about those other times in life? Perhaps it was applying for that new job, asking someone out on a date, moving abroad. You might find it hard to join a social club or group, to try new foods, or to go on a night out.
Whatever it is for you, the fear of the unknown can trigger our fight-flight-freeze mode. Our subconscious creates resistance for us. That clever old brain wants to keep us safe whether we logically want it to or not! It wants to be in control and it’ll make sure you comply. So we can know we want to do and then the doubts and negativity creep in courtesy of the subconscious.
Am I good enough? Do I have the right skills? Will I be judged? It’s too risky… What if I fail… What if it all goes wrong… I’ll only have myself to blame… I’m stupid… I’m getting above myself… I don’t deserve to be happy…
All these negative thoughts will keep you where you are. They’ll stop you from becoming the person you truly should be. And they stop you from enjoying the journey of life.
Think about life for a moment as being like a car travelling in the dark. The headlights light up a small section of the road ahead. You’re in control and even though you can’t see the full road ahead, you confidently and carefully drive along it. Your alert to anything that might cross your path so you drive with care. As you travel along the road, you notice that the road you wanted to take has been unexpectedly closed off. There’s a diversion and it’s going to add a bit of extra time to get you to your destination. You’re not familiar with this road so you start to feel uneasy. You don’t have a choice but to take the new route. You’re now even more aware of the road around you. Once you’ve been on the road for a few minutes, you settle into it and return to normal. Just as you feel relaxed, you see a sign ahead which shows that you can go one of two ways. You’re not sure which road to take and there isn’t anything to guide you so you go with your instinct and pick one. As you travel along this new road, you realise that you’re in a part of the country that you haven’t visited before and it’s actually beautiful. You make a mental note that you’ll come back here someday as you’re excited to find a new place to visit. Now you’re glad you came along this road as you’ve seen a place you wouldn’t otherwise have seen. As you’re leaving, you see a sign which tells you that you’re close to your destination. You think to yourself that you can either keep going to get there or you can stop at this other place. Maybe for some time or maybe for good. You get a feeling that whatever you decide to do will be the right decision based on what you know at this time so you decide to keep going and see what your destination is like. Your curiosity to get there is strong. You feel confident that you can come back to the other place any time and you’re excited to see if the place you started your journey to is what you expected it to be… time will tell!
Lifes journey takes us along many roads with unexpected diversions along the way. We might be nervous or fearful of them. Sometimes we’re in control of them, other times we’re not. Sometimes those experiences are incredibly difficult to navigate through. We’ll always be in control of at least some elements of each of life’s experiences. There will be many choices to make. Sometimes we’ll eventually get to where we wanted to go. Other times, we change direction as we decide somewhere else is more appealing. We might get to our destination and it turns out to not be what we expected. We might decide to get back on the road to go somewhere else. We might get there and it turns out to be everything we hoped for! And the diversions only made the journey more interesting or taught us lessons.
Whatever is in front of us is unknown but if we choose to embrace the unknown as part of our journey, go with the flow, embrace any mistakes and feel grateful for everything we experience along the way then we can enjoy the whole experience. Life is a journey, its’ not just about the destination. Don’t forget to look all around you or you might miss out on the beauty of it. As Ferris Bueller said “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. ”
Stepping out of your comfort zone isn’t easy. You’ll suddenly find loads of reasons why you shouldn’t take action on what you desire. Wanting thoughts will always lead to more wanting. Living in lack will lead to a life of lack. Taking a step forward, even if it’s a small one is taking action. It shows that you’re willing to start pushing through the resistance and head towards living the life you dreamed of. Making it your reality. It might take time and you won’t always see results straight away but you can rest assured that as long as you keep moving, you’ll eventually get somewhere… even if it ends up being different to what you imagined.
Think of life abundantly as an exciting journey and you’ll attract more abundance along the way. We are surrounded by abundance. It’s yours to take if you choose to do so.
Enjoy the trip!xx